Hey girl! First and foremost, how are you?!
Today, I want to talk about something we don’t hear about enough – learning to LOVE your own company and doing things solo. I’m sitting here in Nando’s, just chilling and enjoying my own vibe, and it hit me – so many of us have never even thought of taking ourselves out, whether it’s for food, fun, or even a full-on solo trip. But let me tell you, it’s a game changer. I love going to the theatre by myself, it’s so freeing.. I don’t have to wait for anyone or decide on who likes what and who wants to do what. I literally, just get up and go! For example: I really wanted to go to some ‘proper’ German Christmas markets this year, so I have booked to go to Berlin for a few days and I am sooo excited!
I know, it sounds a bit daunting. The idea of being out in the world by yourself – eating at a restaurant, sitting alone at the cinema, or exploring a museum solo – might feel intimidating at first. But that’s exactly why it’s so powerful. Once you break through the initial fear of “What will people think?” you start unlocking a whole new level of self-confidence and independence.
WHY Dating Yourself Matters
When you take yourself out and experience life on your own terms, it’s not just about being alone. It’s about connecting with yourself, embracing your independence, and realising that you don’t need anyone else to enjoy life. It sets a high standard for what you expect from others because, sis, you already know how to treat yourself and you are LEARNING how to treat yourself! If you’re happy spending a Saturday afternoon wandering through art galleries or grabbing dinner at a cute spot, you won’t settle for someone who thinks a half-hearted hangout is enough. Drives and milkshakes are cute, and they realllly are great! But, go to someone with what you would do for yourself! And if that is only going on drives or for a milkshake, then great for you! But, Queen you deserve so much more than milkshakes and sex! (And that’s me keeping it real!).
Taking the time to explore what you love by yourself also means you’re clear on who you are. When you do start dating someone, you’re not relying on them to define your happiness. Instead, you’re simply adding to your already fulfilled life and they will have to get with your script! As you create a separate shared script together.
Start Small > Dream Big
If the thought of doing things alone makes you nervous, start with baby steps. Maybe it’s a walk in the park with your favourite playlist, or grabbing a coffee at a cute café. The more you do it, the more comfortable you’ll feel. Trust me, once you start, you’ll wonder why you ever hesitated. I have had so much feedback from girls who have been anxious to go out alone and have finally done it, and wow! They LOVE it! The more you do it, the more you will get used to it.
One of my favourite things to do is head to the cinema by myself. I get to pick the movie I want without having to compromise, grab my snacks, and just zone out. A few months ago, I took myself to a theatre show in London while I was away for work. The people next to me were honestly shocked I was there alone – but girl, I had a TIME! I was shocked, that they was shocked. I was singing, dancing, and just enjoying the moment, completely free. I even ended up making friends with a few other people in my row and turned the night into an unexpected adventure and then nipped to a restaurant for pizza afterwards!
Embrace Solo Travel
Now, this might be a bigger leap, but solo travel is a whole other level of freedom and growth and it is one I am doing this year, at the fabulous age of 30! I’m planning my first solo trip to Europe (Ibiza almost made the list, but my bestie couldn’t resist tagging along!). Traveling alone means you get to move at your own pace, follow your own itinerary, and truly soak in the experience without worrying about what anyone else wants to do, I’ve said it twice in this blog and I will unapologetically say it again.. living life on your own terms is freeing! It’s like a deep dive into your own soul, where you discover exactly who you are and what you want from life. I am also looking at the ‘girls only’ travel groups for Thailand next year! I CAN NOT WAIT! The link is: https://galswho.com/pages/gals-who-travel
Self–Confidence is the Real Glow-Up
One of the most beautiful things about learning to love your own company is the confidence it builds. It’s not just about being independent – it’s about knowing your worth, setting standards, and realising that you’re enough. Whether you’re dancing alone in your living room or exploring a new city by yourself, you’re pouring into your own cup, saving some of that energy for yourself. It truly is priceless.
My mum taught me early on to never wait around for anyone. If you want to do something, go do it! Life’s too short to be waiting for someone else’s schedule to align with yours. Be the girl who takes herself out to brunch, who books that solo trip, who doesn’t need anyone else to feel whole – but who also knows how to let people in when it feels right.
Date Yourself Before Dating Anyone Else – one of the best pieces of advice that I can give!
If there’s one piece of advice I could give to anyone, it’s this: date yourself first. Figure out what you love, what lights you up, and what brings you peace when it’s just you. That way, when someone else comes into your life, you’re sharing your happiness with them rather than expecting them to create it for you. You already know how to treat yourself – so anyone who steps into your world better match that energy.
You’ve Got This!
So, let this be your sign to start exploring life solo. Whether it’s taking yourself to a cute café, planning that weekend getaway, or just spending time doing what you love – make yourself a priority. Remember, you’re already the girl you want to be, you’re just continuing to grow into her. Be independent, be soft, and most of all, be unapologetically in love with your own vibe. PS: If you can, solo hotel trips are the BEST! I spend quite a lot of time in hotels with work, when I am working out of the city and I LOVE IT, I always get snacks & just watch rubbish television and get a hot shower and relax allll night.
You’re amazing, girl. Go out there and show the world what you’re made of – and don’t forget to enjoy every single minute of your own company.
All my love,
Bronte xoxo
